question..

What makes a friend a true one?

The reason I asked this question is because, about 2 months ago, I was sort of in the middle of a dispute between two friends. Let's just call them Friend1 and Friend2. I had to hear both of them bitch and rant about each other, dishing out negative and intimate information about each other. Friend1 said that Friend2 is just a "bar friend" and the friendship they shared wasn't much and isn't a loss. Okay.. Not my problem, can't do a thing about it!

Then, one night, last month at a bar, Friend2 'fessed up they had sex a few months ago. Huh? That surprised me, but didn't appreciate being told of something as private as this. It was getting too much for me to handle. Repeatedly, I had to tell them, "Look, I know and understand how you feel about each other, but can we talk about something else?" Wow, I had to put up with their evil stares between each other a few times. I just don't like the negative vibes. I even tried to get them to talk it out like adults and be polite to each other again. It wasn't 100% successful. So, I am staying neutral and both of them have my love and friendship. They know this and respect me for it.

Then, get this.. Last night, I got an email from Friend2, "Phillip, u need to mouth shut cuz I forgot to make promised Friend1 do not tell anyone abt me and Friend1 had S E....u know...so we already make up as friend thanks....hope see u this weekend!"

What the fuck?! That was rude. And that was SO convenient of him to say "I forgot" about a promise!!! I am thinking, "My ass, bitch! You broke that promise ON PURPOSE just to spite Friend1! What kind of friend are you?!?!" That email made me question my friendship with Friend2.

Would it really be worth it to continue being friends with Friend2? Because Friend1 and I became close almost like best friends since February, should I tell Friend1 what really happened? Please. I don't want this to go "high school" mode because we are old enough. My first instinct was to just shut up and be polite to Friend2, but remain true to Friend1. Really, what do you think of this?