If you have friends, ask yourself this: "Am I a true friend?" I know I wouldn't leave a friend hanging there alone if they needed help. True friends don't give up on their friends. True friends don't give "tough love". I know what tough love is, because I had it my whole life. When I think of "tough love", it makes me think of negative feelings. I admit to being somewhat negative, but being negative to me doesn't help. So, I know "tough love" doesn't work for me. Constructive criticism works better.